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Goodwill behavior is necessary for a compassionate society, but it has a downside. Being kind often means that he endures a lot, sometimes lies, tries hard and is always close to perfection, and falls victim to other behaviors that are harmful to self and safety. Robinson summarizes the nine mistakes that nice people ignore and do every day, and shows us how to fix them.

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You are a nice person. You always try to do what other people expect, and while you are, you do anything to please them. Never ask yourself for anything from them, and make sure not to hurt others' feelings, and not lose your temper, and when others attack you unreasonably, you remain reasonable and calm. And you are always ready to advise people, and when you feel embarrassed about the way a friend is with you, you never think of embarrassing him, and you never talk about what makes you sad for others, you are a really nice person.
The writer contemplated the influence of the gentle personality on himself, and with a new perception he began to define his most defeating behavior: he usually said yes to people when he should say to them no, and he constantly isolated himself from others by not telling them what he wanted, and by pretending to be calm while he was angry, and By lying when he feared hurting their feelings, and over and over again he was discouraged from holding himself accountable to care about their affairs even when he was unable to.
The writer realized that this behavior (through his meeting with a group of friends with the presence of a famous psychiatrist to think about the way they perform as individuals in the helping professions) and that it is a way to quickly save others who have problems, is a destructive way for us and them. When we approach people who are important to us, and feel good when we try to help others, we are full of good intentions, and yet whenever we talk and act in the kind ways that we have learned, which almost everyone accepts as normal, we feel exhausted, frustrated and distrustful. ourselves.
In this book, the author refers to these behaviors as errors. It studies things that nice people do in good faith and in a way they usually do, but which adversely affect their relationships, taking joy out of their lives. And steal precious time and energy. The author summarizes these behaviors into nine errors that are counterproductive, and they are worth our attention because with a little thought and effort we can stop doing them.
Also, the author does not differentiate between the occurrence of women and men in these mistakes. The writer realizes that both sexes deal with social situations in a different way from the other sex, and from a different perspective, and that one of the sexes may be more inclined to do one of these mistakes, and that women suffer more social pressure than men to be nice, and that most people think that men They don't have the same kind of kindness as women, but whether you are a nice guy or a nice woman, you are likely to fall into these nine mistakes repeatedly to your detriment.

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